6. Calm Confidence: 10 Maxims for Impact and Effectiveness

Number 6 in a series of ten maxims I find myself repeating. 

Calm Confidence is appealing. It’s appealing to prospects, to clients and customers, and to colleagues. And it feels good.

Tie straighteningYou can’t just put Calm Confidence on like a crisp new pinstriped shirt, but there are tweaks you can make to your outward appearance and behavior that can help project Calm Confidence, and can even make you feel more calm and confident on the inside.

All things being equal, for instance, I tend to project a greater sense of Calm Confidence when I’m wearing professionally-appropriate clothes, I’m not fidgeting, I’m more engaged, I’m communicating with conviction, I’m making eye contact, etc.

More than just projecting a sense of Calm Confidence, though, my bigger goal is to actually be Calm and Confident. And that comes from more than just changing my appearance or vocal tone.

The thing is, calmness tends to come with confidence – and confidence is improved when you’re feeling calm. They’re interdependent.

sunsetHere are a few sample actions that help many people enhance these qualities in themselves – and thrive from their Calm Confidence (the good news is this isn’t an all-or-nothing checklist – one need only apply a handful of these or other methods to significantly enhance Calm Confidence and reap its benefits):

  • Practice slow deep breathing
  • Be prepared without over-preparing
  • Be open to the people and energy around you
  • Visualize success and what it feels like for each concerned
  • Practice
  • Sort the “head talk” in your mind and keep what is affirming, optimistic, positive, and encouraging
  • Arrive early
  • Avoid too much sugar
  • Get adequate sleep and rest
  • Seek to be of service to others
  • Practice sharing laughter, love and joy/making others happy
  • Live and practice your faith
  • Clear the clutter (in your home, relationships, mind, workspace, beliefs, attitudes, behaviors)
  • Yoga
  • Meditation
  • Nature walks—watching the sun rise particularly helps me “center”
  • Gardening
  • and more….

The leaders I’ve experienced who project the deepest kind of Calm Confidence are those who  are authentic and trustworthy. They know and believe in who they are and what they represent. Most importantly, they care about those around them and those they affect. They behave in ways that align with their values and belief systems. Their Calm Confidence comes, in part, from having – from living – a Principled Approach, and a VUCA Prime Mindset.

When I project true Calm Confidence, I find that others are more responsive to me, and I learn more from them as well.

Calm Confidence increases impact and effectiveness. It’s good for business, good for relationships, good for health, and good for helping others Transform, Perform, and Grow.

So, what are the top three things you do or plan to do to grow your “Calm Confidence”?


Check out our previously-posted Maxims for Impact and Effectiveness. I hope they resonate with you as they do with scores of business owners and leaders we have coached, advised, or otherwise helped.

#1 Take the Principled Approach
#2 A VUCA Prime Mindset
#3 Trust but Verify
#4 Don’t Expect a Tree to Be a Rock
#5 Try the Coat on for Size 

Watch this space for numbers 7-10 – coming soon!
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About Paul Kirpes, TPG Companies

For over 35 years, Paul J. Kirpes, Founder and President of TPG Companies, has transformed businesses, corporations, communities, and ventures in the private and public sectors throughout the U.S. as well as internationally. Paul empowers companies, their owners, and leaders to Transform, Perform and Grow!
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1 Response to 6. Calm Confidence: 10 Maxims for Impact and Effectiveness

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